"But privilege talk is not intended to make a moral assessment or a moral claim about the privileged at all. It is about systemic imbalance. It is about injustices that have arisen because of the history of racism that birthed the way things are now. It’s not saying, “You’re a bad person because you’re white.” It’s saying, “The system is skewed in ways that you maybe haven’t realized or had to think about precisely because it’s skewed in YOUR favor.”"
"Rather than avoiding formal middle class norms, you should obsessively embrace them. Don’t simply have cutlery; you should insist that your mother come with you to select appropriate asparagus tongs, berry forks, marrow spoons, and grapefruit spoons. You should demand ALL possible parts of a formal place setting at your wedding, with at least three different origami napkins at each place. Further, insist that your betrothed hand your father cash as he gives you away, thus revealing the underlying chattel tradition of the Western wedding ceremony."